Being a gay Christian is in no way contrary to the Christian faith, the Bible or the teaching of Jesus Christ.
Being gay is not a sin.
Sins are thoughts, words or actions. Being gay is not a thought, word or action.
Being gay is not evil.
Nothing sinful or evil comes from or through Jesus for “all things were made through him, and without him was not any thing made that was made.” John 1:3.
Being gay is not a decision or a choice.
Like the colour of our eyes, we cannot change being gay and nobody can change that for us, it’s part of who we are and that’s OK, because that’s the way God made us.
God our Father and Jesus Christ his Son love all people, including gay people. Being gay is not an obstacle to God’s love and acceptance of us.
Love
God loves and accepts every single human being, including gay people, because he made us and sacrificed his only Son to save us all.
Love will change your life:
in believing God loves you, in loving him, and in loving other people.
True Christian love for all people, through acceptance, forgiveness, compassion, tolerance, kindness, generosity and truly caring for them, will lead to happiness, joy and peace, in their life and yours.
The ultimate love is that God the Father gave up his only Son Jesus to pay the penalty that our sins deserve, to save us all from sin and death and guilt; forever removing the separation from God that is caused by sin.
Being gay cannot omit anyone from this all-inclusive love and acceptance.
“Worthy are you, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they existed and were created.” Revelation 4:11
“The earth is the LORD’s and all that fills it, the world and those who dwell therein” Psalms 24:1
Writing about Jesus, the apostle Paul states “He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things were created through him and for him. And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together.” Colossians 1:15-17
And “for us there is one God, the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom are all things and through whom we exist.” 1 Corinthians 8:6
Hide info“For this is how God loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” John 3:16-17
“The LORD is good to all, and his mercy is over all that he has made.” Psalms 145:9
“For the LORD takes pleasure in his people; he adorns the humble with salvation.” Psalms 149:4
“For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people”. Titus 2:11
Jesus said: “The Father himself loves you, because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.” John 16:27
Hide info“So Peter opened his mouth and said: ‘Truly I understand that God shows no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him.’” Acts 10:34-35
“For the LORD your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great, the mighty, and the awesome God, who is not partial and takes no bribe.” Deuteronomy 10:17
“God shows no partiality.” Romans 2:11
Hide infoJesus said the greatest commandment is: “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbour as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31
Jesus said: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.” John 13:34
And “I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:44
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
“Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.” 1 John 4:11
“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8
“Let all that you do be done in love.” 1 Corinthians 16:14
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Definitions
Some people wrongly think or assume that the definition of ‘gay’ includes or implies the act of sodomy. That is not true. They are confusing sexual orientation with sexual activity.
Being gay is part of who we are; it’s an attribute like eye colour or skin colour; it’s something we are born with, it’s not something we do.
The following definitions are provided in the hope they will help everyone understand the true meaning of these words.
Sexual orientation has nothing to do with sexual activity.
It is a term that refers to attraction and gender, where the attraction might be toward the opposite gender, the same gender, all genders or no gender.
Further reading:
Dictionary definition
Wikipedia reference
In modern usage, the word gay means having a romantic or sexual attraction exclusively to people of the same gender as oneself.
Further reading:
Dictionary definition
Wikipedia reference
Sodomy means anal penetration as a form of sexual intercourse, also known as ‘anal sex’.
A sodomite is anyone who participates in anal sex, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Usually sodomy refers to anal sex between two men, but generally it can mean anal sex between any two people regardless of gender.
Sodomy is a physical sexual activity or practice, it is not the same as a sexual attraction.
Sodomy is a choice; being gay is not a choice.
Further reading:
Dictionary definition
Wikipedia reference
Sin means a thought, word or action as a transgression, fault, offence or omission regarding divine law or a commandment of God.
Further reading:
Dictionary definition
Wikipedia reference
The apostle John writes “Everyone who makes a practice of sinning also practices lawlessness; sin is lawlessness.” 1 John 3:4
And “All wrongdoing is sin” 1 John 5:17a
James writes “whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” James 4:17
The apostle Paul writes “Whatever does not proceed from faith is sin.” Romans 14:23b
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Word
Being gay is not a sin, being gay is not a transgression of divine law, being gay is not a fault or offence.
God’s Word, the Bible, does not say being gay is wrong or sinful.
However there are some verses where it does say sodomy is sinful. This has often resulted in God’s Word being incorrectly used to vilify all gay people. You can be gay and not be a sodomite, you can be a sodomite and not be gay. They are two separate and completely different things.
Being gay is not the same as participating in sodomy. Sexual orientation is not a choice, but sexual activity is a choice.
This section examines the sodomy related verses in the Bible to prove they are not about being gay, so everyone may understand that
God does not hate gay people.
This section contains a lot of information for those who want to know more.
Firstly, the Bible as the authoritative Word of God is discussed. Then the author’s personal opinions on the sodomy verses in the Bible are offerred, as well as some further information regarding other sexual activity.
The reader is encouraged to study the scripture passages in this section, and in the entire website, for yourself and pray for understanding from the Lord and his Holy Spirit.
In addition to the sodomy verses, there are other Bible verses that some religious authors say are guiding principles denying that people can be gay, like ‘God created us male and female’ and therefore we should all be heterosexual. But that is an interpretation made by people who have no understanding that being gay is not a choice, since gay people are born gay. Should we be excluded from God’s love and salvation because of the way he made us? Would God create a group of people that could never be part of his kingdom? Of course not! That is an irrational concept with no basis in scripture at all.
Prejudiced, anti-gay religious commentators are similar to the religious rulers described in the Gospels, whose self-serving views were refuted by Jesus since they were not based on love or a true understanding of God’s Word, but on human tradition.
The apostle Paul writes: “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ.” Colossians 2:8.
All people, including gay people, are created by God through Jesus Christ. Nothing coming from or through Jesus can be inherently sinful or evil.
God the Father is totally and utterly holy. It is his will that all people be holy too, “since it is written, ‘You shall be holy, for I am holy.’” 1 Peter 1:16.
He gave us his Word, the Bible, in part to explain how we are to live and what it means to be holy.
We all fall short of God’s high standard (except for Jesus), but Christians are called to try to be holy, not as a requirement of law or adherence to rules, but because our love for God inclines our hearts to please him.
In Christian theology, the Holy Bible is known as the Canon of Holy Scripture. This roughly means it contains the principles by which all things are measured or judged. It’s an expression that defines its authority and infallible nature against which we can ‘weigh up’ all aspects of life.
The Bible is expressed through divine revelation to humans inspired by the Holy Spirit, which is why it’s often called the Word of God, and as such carries with it the absolute authority of God the Father who created all things.
“For no prophecy was ever produced by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” 2 Peter 1:21
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,” 2 Timothy 3:16
The Bible is not like any other book. It contains divinely inspired words that transcend time and space, and are as true and effective today as when they were written. Jesus confirms the authority of scripture by quoting it extensively, preceding his quotes with words like ‘it is written’ or ‘have you not read’.
The Old Testament was written mostly in ancient Hebrew, with some Aramaic, and the New Testament was written in ancient Greek. There are hundreds of translations, usually called ‘versions’, from those ancient languages into the modern languages used in the World today.
“By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God” Hebrews 11:3a.
“The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever.” Isaiah 40:8.
Jesus said: “Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will not pass away.” Mark 13:31.
It is highly significant that Jesus is called ‘the Word’ in the opening of John’s Gospel. For “[Jesus] is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature, and he upholds the universe by the word of his power” Hebrews 1:3a
The Word of God is not just a collection of books written long ago, it is the eternal and infallible blueprint of the universe as expressed by God, the creator of the universe, and Jesus Christ his Son. It’s applicable to every part of our lives in this world. There is nothing more beneficial for a Christian than reading the Bible everyday. It is food for your soul.
Theology is a deep and detailed area of study, and not the purpose of this website. For those who are interested in learning more, there are a great many books, archaic and modern, dedicated to this fascinating and enlightening subject. For example ‘In Understanding Be Men’ by T.C. Hammond might be a good place to start.
Regarding context:
Some say using individual verses or parts of verses from the Bible to prove a point is taking those words out of the context in which they are written, and therefore is not valid.
If this argument is to be accepted, then all of the apostle Paul’s letters, which are written to specific audiences, would be out of context for us today, since we are not those to whom they are addressed. Also most of the Old Testament would be out of context for those who are not Jewish, since the Old Testament is mainly concerned with God’s interaction with the Israelites.
Context is important sometimes, but the objection regarding using individual sentences or phrases from the Bible out of context is clearly a mundane argument, which wrongly places a human limitation on the divine Word of God. Jesus and his apostles quote the Hebrew scriptures (the Old Testament) out of context numerous times to support what they are saying or to confirm a prophetic outcome, because they know the power, truth and infallibility of the Word of God. Following their example is completely justified.
It also should be noted, the chapter and verse numbers in our modern Bibles were added for ease of reference centuries after the original texts were written, so quoting sentences and phrases not aligned with verse numbers is not an issue. See this Wikipedia link for more info.
Hide infoThe Genesis and Judges passages are strikingly similar in the actions they describe, done by men of two different Gentile towns at two different times in history. One of those towns was Sodom, from which the word ‘sodomy’ is derived.
These are examples of evil, godless people provided in the Bible for our sake, to contrast the difference between people who go their own way and people who conform to behaviour that is acceptable to the God who created us all.
In the language of the times to ‘know’ someone in this way was to have penetrative sex with them, in this case anal sex.
It is demographically impossible that the entire male populations of the towns in these passages were gay. The percentage would be the same for all populations, typically a relatively small number.
So these passages are not about being gay; they are not even about sex. The threatened sodomy of the male visitors was to humiliate and dominate them (similar to rape carried out by heterosexual men in prisons). These passages are about godless, evil people intending sodomy as a means of injury, abuse, domination and control.
It boggles our modern minds as to why in both cases women would be offerred to the wicked men; perhaps to prevent sodomy occurring, or perhaps because there was such little regard for women in those ancient days, but more likely due to the tremendous fear of being overrun by the aggressive mob of godless men intent on doing great evil.
When referring to Sodom and Gomorrah, Jude mentions sexual immorality and ‘unnatural desire’, but the Greek Word translated ‘unnatural’ is ἕτερος heteros; [meaning] of uncertain affinity; (an-, the) other or different.
So as argued above, it is not a homosexual desire, but is more likely referring to a desire to do other than good, in this case to abuse, dominate and humiliate; basically the opposite of the love that Jesus said we all should practice toward one another.
In both of these verses God is speaking with Moses, specifically communicating his views regarding sodomy.
In the language of the times, the expression to ‘lie with’ someone is to have sex with them, specifically penetrative sex, here referring to the act of sodomy, i.e. a man engaging in anal sexual intercourse with another man.
The most important point to note regarding these two verses is that they are not about being gay, they are concerned with a sexual act between men no matter who they are, gay or otherwise.
The second point to note about these two verses is that God says sodomy is an “abomination”. This is a word translated from the Hebrew תּוֹעֵבָה tô‘êḇâ; or תֹּעֵבָה tonebah; meaning something disgusting (morally), i.e. (as noun) an abhorrence. The Hebrew primitive is תָּעַב ṯâ‘aḇ; meaning to loathe, i.e. (morally) detest.
In the book of Leviticus, this word only appears in these two verses.
Being gay is neither moral nor immoral, it’s a state of being, so neither of these verses refer to being gay. But they are straight forward and clear that God regards the act of sodomy as sexually immoral and therefore sinful. There are no caveats, loopholes or any room for variation.
The death penalty in verse 20:13 seems harsh, but is consistent with the New Testament word written by the apostle Paul, who goes on to point out all humans have a saviour from that same penalty: “for the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23. However, “if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins.” Hebrews 10:26
These verses are written for our benefit. How else are we to know the thoughts of God? Many people dismiss the Old Testament Law as not relevant today, however Jesus said “it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for one dot of the Law to become void.” Luke 16:17
Hide infoThese verses contain powerful words, but it is clear the apostle Paul is writing about sexual acts, not about sexual orientation: i.e. having ‘relations’, ‘committing shameless acts’ and being ‘consumed with passion’, also rendered ‘inflamed with lust’ in other translations.
Verse 26 refers to women who “exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature”, but that can’t be referring to lesbians, because lesbians are born gay so are not exchanging anything.
Similarly, in v27 Paul refers to men who “gave up natural relations with women” which also can’t be referring to gay men, because we are born gay so are not giving anything up by not having relations with women. For both gay men and gay women, being gay is natural, since we were born this way.
Therefore the actions described in these two verses, are not referring to being gay, but rather suggest a hedonistic form of sexual behaviour (the practice of seeking maximum pleasure). The use of the words ‘exchanged’ and ‘gave up’ indicate a decision on the subjects’ part to act contrary to their heterosexual nature, to make a choice to pursue this behaviour for pure pleasure. Whereas being gay is not a decision or a choice.
Hide infoThese verses are similar in nature, listing groups of people who are considered unrighteous, sinners or lawbreakers. These lists are describing things that people do, i.e. sinful activities in which they participate.
The ESV translators of the Bible use the phrase “men who practice homosexuality”, but other English versions vary considerably in their translations.
The Greek word used in both of these verses is ἀρσενοκοίτης arsenokoitēs; meaning a sodomite: — abuser of (that defile) self with mankind.
So it is reasonable to conclude this phrase in both of these verses is referring to men who participate in sodomy, since this would be consistent with the other Bible references examined here.
So it is a reference to men undertaking an action rather than simply having a romantic or sexual attraction and so has nothing to do with being gay, which is neither an action nor an activity.
Hide infoThis website is mainly about providing information, it is not about telling people what to do or not do.
What a person thinks, says or does is between that person and God, but one of the many reasons he gave us his Word, the Bible, is to communicate how he wants people to live. Read it for yourself and may the Holy Spirit guide your understanding.
The prohibition against sodomy in the Bible does not mean gay Christians must be celibate or abstain from all forms of sexual activity.
Oral sex:
The Bible doesn’t mention oral sex at all. Some definitions in the world today suggest oral sex is penetrative in nature, so is the same as any kind of sex, but using the mouth or tongue for sexual stimulation is not the same as a penis penetrating a vagina or anus.
The mouth is exposed to the world and used for many purposes, but those other orifices are treated with modesty and privacy, therefore their nature is entirely different.
However, with a lack of clear instruction this has to be a matter for a person’s own conscience, guided by the Holy Spirit.
Masturbation:
There is no prohibition against masturbation in the Bible. Masturbation is completely acceptable, healthy and normal.
There is only one direct reference in the entire Bible to masturbation:
Leviticus 15:16 makes it plain that God acknowledges that a male has emissions of semen not associated with sex with a woman (since that is mentioned separately two verses later, in v18). So v16 can only refer to masturbation and nocturnal emissions (wet dreams). Both are completely acceptable and not considered sinful.
Under the Old Testament Law, after an emission of semen a male would be regarded as ritually or ceremonially ‘unclean’ but that does not mean sinful or a result of sin.
Some misguided authors refer to the actions of Onan in Genesis 38:8-10 as prohibiting masturbation. But those verses have nothing to do with masturbation. Firstly Onan wasn’t masturbating and secondly, the issue wasn’t that his semen was spilled on the ground, it was what his particular semen contained, i.e. his DNA, that mattered.
This is a completely different issue regarding Onan’s refusal to obey the Old Testament Law of perpetuating Israelite genealogy.
Finally, for completeness, it should be mentioned that some people are of the opinion that Jonathan, the son of King Saul, mentioned numerous times in the books of 1 and 2 Samuel, may be gay.
This is based on verses like 1 Samuel 18:1-3, 1 Samuel 19:1, 1 Samuel 20:30 and especially 2 Samuel 1:26. This conclusion is difficult to justify based on the text alone. It seems more likely these verses are simply describing a very close and loving friendship, perhaps with some hero worship of David on Jonathan’s part. But as always, read the scriptures for yourselves and draw your own conclusions.
Life
Gay or otherwise, God loves all people so much that he gave His only Son Jesus for us, as the perfect and only way to eternal life. That life starts now, in this world, for everyone who believes in him.
Jesus said: “Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life.” John 5:24
Regardless of sexual orientation, being a Christian is a life long, and sometimes difficult, journey. It’s not only an instantaneous decision to believe. It’s also a continuous process of adapting to the influence of the love of God the Father, Jesus Christ his Son, and the Holy Spirit, in our lives.
While we live in this world, Jesus encourages us with these words: “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” Romans 3:23
“No one living is righteous before you.” Psalms 143:2b
“All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned—every one—to his own way; and the LORD has laid on him the iniquity of us all.” Isaiah 53:6
Hide info“For I will be merciful toward their iniquities, and I will remember their sins no more.” Hebrews 8:12
“The LORD is good to all, and his mercy is over all that he has made.” Psalms 145:9
“You, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.” Psalms 86:15
Hide info“God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
“If anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.” 1 John 2:1b
“Consequently, he is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since he always lives to make intercession for them.” Hebrews 7:25
Hide info“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.” Romans 8:1-2
“In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace.” Ephesians 1:7
Hide info“For the LORD is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.” Psalms 100:5
“Oh give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; for his steadfast love endures forever!” 1 Chronicles 16:34
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39
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Purpose
The purpose of this website is to prove the truth, with evidence based on the authority of the Word of God, that being gay is in no way contrary to the Christian faith, the Bible or the teaching of Jesus Christ; and to share that information with the world.
Not all gay Christians experience difficulty reconciling their faith and their sexual orientation, but for those who do, especially young people, I hope and pray the information in this website will help save them from falling away, from despair, and especially from thoughts of suicide. I also hope it will serve the families and friends of gay Christians; to encourage their understanding, acceptance and support.
Please know, it is not my intention to ignore others in the LGBT+ community, I’m simply writing about what I know. I don’t presume to write about that which I do not know or understand from personal experience.
Other than the Bible references I’ve used as evidence to support my reasoning, the content on this website is solely my opinion as a gay Christian who has lived in this world for many years. Like everyone, I struggle with acceptance and sin and the difficulties of life, but I also know the joy and peace in believing, and I am absolutely certain, without any doubt, that God loves me and fully accepts me as a gay Christian.
“Be exalted, O God, above the heavens! Let your glory be over all the earth!” Psalms 57:5
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